[翻譯] 13個方法分辨你是否在跟優質女人約會

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13個方法分辨你是否在跟優質女人約會

By CHRISSY STOCKTON

 

1. 她會鼓勵你去追求你的目標，而且不會在背後操控你。她信任你會為你的人生作正確的決定。她是你的專屬啦啦隊，而非你的教練。

1. She encourages you to pursue your goals, but she doesn’t micromanage. She trusts you to make the right decisions in your own life. She’s the cheerleader, not the coach.

 

2. 她不會耍心機讓你吃醋，她對自己的價值是有安全感的，而且她相信你具備能夠看出她與眾不同的能力。她不用小伎倆或是遊戲來騙你來將目光停留在她身上。

2. She doesn’t try to make you jealous. She’s secure in her worth, and your ability to recognize how valuable she is. She doesn’t need to play games to “trick” you into seeing her her for what she is.

 

3. 她沒有公主病。她需要你以「尊重」來對待她，是因為她是你所愛的人，而非因為她是個「女人」所以你必須因此而特別做什麼。就像她也會期待如果你以尊重對待你的家人與朋友，她知道你也會以同樣的方式對待她。優質女人絕對不會跟一個不尊重他最親近的人在一起的。

3. She doesn’t have a princess complex. She demands that you treat her with respect — but because she is a person you love, not because she is a woman and therefore magically entitled to something. Just as she would expect you to treat your friends and family with respect, she knows you wouldn’t treat her any other way. A high-quality woman wouldn’t be with a man who was disrespectful to the people he is close to in life.

 

4. 她有一部分的生活事你不需要介入的－朋友、興趣、事業等等的。她有足夠的自信及獨立，不需要你介入她的每一件事。

4. She has a part of her life that doesn’t involve you. Friends, hobbies, career — whatever. She’s confident and independent enough to not need your involvement in everything she does.

 

5. 你不會猶豫要不要讓她參與你生活的不同部分：同事的烤肉聚會、與你父母親的晚餐、較重要的工作應酬等，她知道在不同場合該如何打理好自己，懂得應對進退。她是個夠成熟的人，知道如何在你的工作伙伴中留下好印象，又同時能夠跟你的朋友打成一片。

5. You wouldn’t think twice about inviting her into different parts of your life: a barbecue with your college friends, a dinner with your parents, a fancy work party — she knows how to handle herself in different settings. She’s mature enough to make a good impression with your colleagues and wise enough to know letting loose with your friends and having fun doesn’t mean she’s immature.

 

6. 她能夠好好照顧自己。這不代表她是個完美的人，只是她會持續變得更好。你不需要告訴她她需要改進什麼，她懂得自我反省，並且持續的讓自己有動力改善現有的問題。她需要的是一個可以一起往前走的夥伴，而非多一個爸爸。 

6. She takes care of herself. This doesn’t mean she is perfect, it means she is always improving. You don’t have to tell her she needs to solve a problem in her life. She’s self-aware and sees what issues she has and is self-motivated enough to constantly be working to improve them. She needs a partner, not a dad.

 

7. 當她到一個陌生的環境時，她能夠有自信的介紹自己。她不會躲在你的背後等你幫她打好每一個關係建立的橋樑。 

7. When she is in a situation where she doesn’t know people, she introduces herself confidently. She doesn’t cling meekly to your side waiting for you to facilitate every social interaction.

 

8.  她的網路社群資料(Facebook, twitter, instagram等)是能夠讓一個講道理、不是超級傳統的主管看完之後願意錄取她的。(我猜意思是裡面沒有一些不堪入目的資料!?)

8. A reasonable, non-hyper-conservative employer could look at her social media presence and hire her.

 

9. 她對性是不害羞的。如果今天她不想要，她會說出為什麼而不是只發出「哎喲」。你和她的性生活不會讓她感到不舒服不願意討論，這是成熟而且健康的，才能夠讓兩人中間的愛火持續燃燒。

9. She isn’t shy about sex. If she doesn’t want to do something, she can articulate why instead of just saying “ew”. Your sex life with her isn’t a shady secret she feels uncomfortable talking about, it’s adult and healthy and you both work to keep the flame alive.

 

10. 她不會總是跟你說「都可以」，她有自己的想法而且可以理性的跟你討論。即使你們的主張不一樣，她仍然可以跟你談論這個話題，而且不會有人在過程中逐漸提高分貝。

10. She has opinions more than “idk” and she can talk calmly and non-hyperbolically about them. If she disagrees with you, you can have a conversation about it without anyone raising their voice.

 

11. 她絕對不會對她的朋友或家人開「男人很笨」、「男人就是很幼稚」這類的玩笑(更糟糕是對你的家人和朋友)，她也不會把「有快樂的老婆才有快樂的人生」之類的女性常用口頭禪掛嘴邊去耳提面命她所愛的另一半。

11. She would never joke with her friends or family (or worse, your friends or family) about how men are “stupid” or childish, or whatever “happy wife happy life” mantra you’ve heard women use to put down the partners they love.

 

12. 她知道她想要什麼樣的人生，她不會因為跟誰在一起就改變她的原則、價值觀或目標。

12. She knows what she wants in life. She doesn’t change her values or goals to tailor fit the guy she is with.

 

13. 跟這樣的女孩在一起你會感到自己很幸運，因為你知道她不輕易答應別人的約會或是跟男生曖昧。她並不會害怕單身，而且她也非常能夠自得其樂。你知道她之所以跟你約會是因為她被你吸引，而且她相信你們能夠讓彼此成為更好的人。

13. You feel lucky to be dating her because you know she would never date anyone just to date them. She isn’t afraid to be single and she is self-sufficient. You know she is dating you because she’s attracted to you and she thinks that you will help each other grow to be even higher quality, together.

 

文章出處：http://thoughtcatalog.com/christine-stockton/2014/03/13-ways-you-know-youre-dating-a-high-quality-woman/#sG8SrtrzK1L5GksZ.01

 

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